By Kellene Bishop
Recently one of my readers sent me a real life sexual assault scenario involving multiple attackers and asked me for my advice. I feel that understanding the necessary defense skills and mindset against multiple attackers is a valid subject to address. And so I’m going to share her question with you as a perfect segue.
“Here’s the scenario; a young lady was raped while in the bathroom at a party. The door was locked but the first animal used something to open the lock, which is not hard to do. He came in part way (probably to see if she was alone), said ‘excuse me,’ started to leave but came right back in, letting the second animal in. They immediately turned the lights out…and that was that. She cooperated and wasn’t beaten, strangled or had any other manner of horrible things done to her, but being raped is horrible enough.
My question is, what do you suggest be done when there are two attackers? Having a gun (yes I’ve seen the sharp shooter videos) or some other weapon, and/or knowing some self defense techniques may lessen the likelihood of being assaulted by one attacker, but two? I’m scratching my head about what to do in that case. Unless someone is sitting on the toilet with a gun on their lap (unlikely), they are extremely vulnerable. Pants and undies are pulled down, so charging toward the door or the attackers is also unlikely. I read a suggestion of wearing a whistle around the neck (or some other noise maker), but with so many people talking, etc. and loud music, the sound may blend in.
The likelihood of this happening again to the same person is slim, but if it happens again to anyone, that’s one person too many.”
Understand that the likelihood of multiple attackers occurs once out of every 24 rape attempts in the U.S. That’s not exactly a small number in my opinion. Thus mentally and logistically preparing to defend against this evil is realistic.
Your first line of defense against multiple attackers is indeed a firearm. I keep one of mine on the waist of my pants or skirt. Thus even if I’m “indisposed,” if a person were to enter the bathroom as this scenario plays out, I could easily retrieve my firearm.
Another great place to keep a firearm is in a belly band. Even the most fashion-conscious woman will appreciate how unobvious and well concealed they are. With a belly band you also have easy access.
There’s no limit on the number of actual “weapons” you can have on you. I have a great knife, which is always handy in my purse. I would hope that that would be nearby if I was in the bathroom, but I’m certain that it should be nearby everyone especially if it houses a weapon with which to save your life. I have an Asp in my purse as well. This particular weapon will literally crush a skull, break a wrist or arm or knee cap when brought forcibly into contact with an assailant. (My concealed firearm permit allows me to legally carry both of these items in the state of Utah.) Last, but not least, I also have my red-dyed pepper spray on my key ring. This is usually tucked into the front of my waist regardless of where I am. ALL of these weapons are easily usable, and readily available. I don’t rely on just one because life doesn’t exactly work out that way. Perhaps this approach causes some of you to think I’m crazy like Dwight from The Office, but I assure you that the likelihood of my being able to save my life against multiple attackers is suitable. At some point they will get tired of my pulling out weapons, don’t you think?
However, all of these weapons are not the most important aspect of preserving your life in the event of a multiple attacker self defense scenario. There are two components that you literally cannot live or hope to survive without.
Awareness is one of two most critical lifesavers when it comes to preserving yourself from multiple attackers. You can never afford to be disengaged from your surroundings. Not at a party. Not in a bathroom stall. Not in a movie theater. Not while you’re grocery shopping. In all seriousness, the likelihood of you being attacked when you exude a confident awareness of your surroundings goes down significantly. Those who attack in a group are actually the most cowardice of them all. They can’t even “rape” on their own without all of their buddies to watch and help control one girl. Thus keeping this in mind, remember that they are looking for the easiest target. Your job, in order to stay alive and NEVER have to overcome such an instance is to stay aware! All of the things you’ve been told to do (use a buddy system, park near a light, ask for an escort out to your car, etc, etc) are all valid deflectors of an attack.
Your second and most important defense against a multiple attacker scenario is your mindset. And no, I’m not talking about some kind of Anthony Robbins or Deepak Chopra fluff here. There is something that you must understand if you are ever attacked. You are NOT being attacked by a human being. Don’t let your instinctively compassionate mind tell you otherwise. The moment they choose to take your virtue, your life, or any of your freedoms in any way, they have become sub-human. They are literally nothing more than a vagrant animal. And just as you would willingly shoot a rabid stray dog attacking your child or someone else you love, you MUST be mentally prepared to shoot an attacker. Stop thinking of your attacker as a human beings, because they are NOT! Stop thinking about your impact on their life! You are not responsible for that impact in that moment. They made that choice be attacking you. They ASKED for the consequences. Don’t wait and see how much damage they intend to inflict upon you. Remember, it’s NEVER just sex. It’s violent control. And if you allow it to happen because you don’t suitably fight back, it can quite possibly control who you are for the rest of your life. So be prepared to fight it at ALL costs. My attitude is if I’m going to die, someone is definitely going with me!
Understand that an assault encounter typically takes between 2 and 12 minutes. However, most women have never practiced physically and mentally fighting for their life for a full 2 to 12 minutes. Practice some unfettered “whoop A$$” on a pillow or a mattress for a full 2 to 12 minutes. Attack that pillow or mattress with all of the fire you can muster. Yes, it will tire you out. But you need to practice it again and again so that you know you can endure the time and the energy necessary to save your life. You need to mentally AND physically be prepared to put up a fight.
Lastly, in a multiple attacker scenario, don’t worry about taking them all down at once. Yes, that’s possible with a firearm, but if you lose that option, know that you have a Plan B. Statistically speaking as well as with psychological considerations, focus on ONE of them to destroy… and I do mean destroy… and the rest will desert their mission. If you don’t have a gun, go for the throat muscles. Grab them and literally pull them out. Most men have a prominent Adams Apple. Put your claws in there and YANK! Be prepared to do the same with their eye sockets if necessary. I know, that sounds absolutely awful. But remember, this is your life and your sanity that you’re fighting for. This is war in its truest form. As I said before, psychologically speaking, when you defeat one violently and the rest will flee. Remember you have FEET, HANDS, and TEETH to use for your defense. But most importantly you must have the determination to survive under the best of circumstances, not just barely. The same goes for the use of a firearm or any other weapon you choose to use. Don’t use it mamby pamby. Use it with direct and controlled rage. You need to let them know that they chose a fierce and deadly creature to mess with. One who is NOT fragile, NOT passive, and who’s NOT willing to be a victim.
Multiple attackers need not result in victory for the sub-human body masses. You can combat it and yes, you can survive victoriously – even from multiple attackers.
Copyright 2009 Kellene Bishop. All rights reserved. You are welcome to repost this information so long as it is credited to Kellene Bishop.
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